The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete. Read More »
Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience for women of all ages. Maintaining your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety rules.
You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you are) for a mid-sized law firm….not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.
Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.
When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.
Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with revealing.
Your prince charming suddenly came up to you and asks you out. This is a chance of a lifetime, so you said yes.
But how in the world would you know if the date would turn out fine? You certainly wouldn’t know unless it’s over.
You notice that your prince charming is quite nervous on your date. It looks like he had taken gallons of coffee before the date.
It seems that long silence always gets between your conversations. Prince charming then starts to look like he is going to faint. This would turn out to be a bad date unless you try helping him find his words a little.
Maybe he just needs a little push that can provide him with the idea that you want to make this date a memorable one.
Usually, the first date involves going to movies, having lunch, or spending dinner with a lot of sharing. Dates like these just need a little jump-start to be more effective.
Try suggesting some activities that involve fun and adventure.
Let your prince charming know that you are okay with him. Try helping him get to his words or unfold his plans for your date.
Help him by telling the stuff you want to do and the things you want to try. Places you want to go or places you want him to see would be very good things to tell your date if you want to loosen him up a bit and have fun on your date.
Help your date in conquering the limitations that separate him from you. Help him break the ice. After some time, he may be starting to feel okay and loosen up a bit.
Afterwards, he could then start living up to your knight in shining armor dreams.
An article at newsday.com has a question from someone who’s boyfriend is visting 23 dating sites. They are in a relationship together, but it seems he’s making a concerted effort on these dating sites. He’s not going to the sites after they have arguments, but also during other times. Read more of the article to see the advice.
